I enjoyed this read and can say that you describe this 'in between' stage very well. It resonated with me.
Especially this part:
"Here’s the harder, quieter truth: sometimes flatness comes not from failure, but from a kind of internal misalignment. A gap between the life you’re living and the person you’re becoming. Not a wrong life, just a no-longer-right one. One that isn’t quite the right fit for you. Like a cocoon that has become too constricting, but that you’re not quite ready to burst free from into a new version of yourself. But that’s where you are. You’re at a pivotal moment."
I am so in this space right now and I am changing my mindset to see it as a recalibration versus another 'down'. This alone is a huge growth moment. Right now, it's like this is a great mental model. I also like 'nothing lasts forever'.
Yes that's a great mind shift. And yes, "right now it's like this" is a good mental model. I do also like the 'nothing lasts forever' reminder (or 'this too shall pass')
Yes, I believe we all do. I have learned to slow down, love myself more, and remind myself that I can feel this and still feel grateful. It is important to hold onto gratitude in these moments, especially the moments when full on blah comes for no reason. Because when we don't, we start feeling really sucky about ourselves - like, what is wrong with me? People have it so bad and here I am taking my life for granted. It is also important to remember that there is nothing wrong with us. We are simply human living a fully human experience of life. Thanks Caitlin.
As someone struggling with depression, I could really relate to this. I also deal with feeling flat, and for a long time, I thought they were the same thing. They feel different now. Because of my traumatic experience, I struggle some days, but I also feel flat because I’m unsure about my future. Honestly, I think I was already questioning my career direction even before everything happened. Thanks for the article,
Sending hugs to you re: your depression struggles. They can feel similar, yes. Depression is like this, but if this,feeling lasts longer - for more than 2 weeks, that's when you should see your PHCP (primary health care practitioner). And i think so many of us feel this way about our jobs at some point!
I loved this post, a rich exploration of that weird flat feeling of being in-between. I've been in this space so many times before. Love the gentle suggestions, too.
"Here’s the harder, quieter truth: sometimes flatness comes not from failure, but from a kind of internal misalignment. A gap between the life you’re living and the person you’re becoming. Not a wrong life, just a no-longer-right one. One that isn’t quite the right fit for you. Like a cocoon that has become too constricting, but that you’re not quite ready to burst free from into a new version of yourself. But that’s where you are. You’re at a pivotal moment."
This paragraph made me think of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. I think it can be really helpful for those that are feeling this way to help people act more toward their values.
I enjoyed this read and can say that you describe this 'in between' stage very well. It resonated with me.
Especially this part:
"Here’s the harder, quieter truth: sometimes flatness comes not from failure, but from a kind of internal misalignment. A gap between the life you’re living and the person you’re becoming. Not a wrong life, just a no-longer-right one. One that isn’t quite the right fit for you. Like a cocoon that has become too constricting, but that you’re not quite ready to burst free from into a new version of yourself. But that’s where you are. You’re at a pivotal moment."
I am so in this space right now and I am changing my mindset to see it as a recalibration versus another 'down'. This alone is a huge growth moment. Right now, it's like this is a great mental model. I also like 'nothing lasts forever'.
Yes that's a great mind shift. And yes, "right now it's like this" is a good mental model. I do also like the 'nothing lasts forever' reminder (or 'this too shall pass')
Yes, I believe we all do. I have learned to slow down, love myself more, and remind myself that I can feel this and still feel grateful. It is important to hold onto gratitude in these moments, especially the moments when full on blah comes for no reason. Because when we don't, we start feeling really sucky about ourselves - like, what is wrong with me? People have it so bad and here I am taking my life for granted. It is also important to remember that there is nothing wrong with us. We are simply human living a fully human experience of life. Thanks Caitlin.
As someone struggling with depression, I could really relate to this. I also deal with feeling flat, and for a long time, I thought they were the same thing. They feel different now. Because of my traumatic experience, I struggle some days, but I also feel flat because I’m unsure about my future. Honestly, I think I was already questioning my career direction even before everything happened. Thanks for the article,
it really resonated.
Sending hugs to you re: your depression struggles. They can feel similar, yes. Depression is like this, but if this,feeling lasts longer - for more than 2 weeks, that's when you should see your PHCP (primary health care practitioner). And i think so many of us feel this way about our jobs at some point!
I loved this post, a rich exploration of that weird flat feeling of being in-between. I've been in this space so many times before. Love the gentle suggestions, too.
Thanks Leah! Yes, I've been here too many times as well....at least it's a temporary feeling! (If it's not actual depression that is)
"Here’s the harder, quieter truth: sometimes flatness comes not from failure, but from a kind of internal misalignment. A gap between the life you’re living and the person you’re becoming. Not a wrong life, just a no-longer-right one. One that isn’t quite the right fit for you. Like a cocoon that has become too constricting, but that you’re not quite ready to burst free from into a new version of yourself. But that’s where you are. You’re at a pivotal moment."
This paragraph made me think of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. I think it can be really helpful for those that are feeling this way to help people act more toward their values.
Yes, that's a great point, Michael! ACT would be helpful in these times...