First of all, you are not talking nonsense! As you know, I don’t have kids either but kids are still part of my life through friends and extended family. What concerns me the most is the lack of resilience in many young adults I know. They’re marched off to their FP’s at the first signs of anxiety to be put on AD’s. I can understand it if there is an underlying issue (after all we never know what goes on behind closed doors), but on the whole they’re struggling with growing up and the responsibilities that come with that. And I agree with you about the Self Help, let’s constantly improve/level-up/cleanse ourselves of pain etc etc….it’s exhausting and pressuring. Learning to Be is the most important lesson, after all we are Human BEings not Human DOings.
Ok rant over now! 🤣 Thank you for yet another thought provoking essay! 🌻🌻
Thank you Wendy! I do not interact with kids often as most of my friends
dont have kids either! So I didnt know about at thr first sign of something "bad" they're sent to the Dr's to be prescribed stuff rather than learning to deal/cope/be eith whatever! But i can see that from what I've seen of Gen Z.That doesn't bore well for the future, I feel!
And yes, so true that we are human BEings, not DOings!!!
I fully agree with you, and your wisdom is SO refreshing. What you bring up NEEDS to be said. We can always use ideas like yours to get rid of ideas that we might have that are less than helpful, like "being a problem". You have in your article undermined a few limiting ones. We are so powerful and we are okay, just as we are. I think our worthiness and value are intrinsic (can neither be increased, diminished or removed). When we know that, we can truly live. You also talk about acceptance. Accepting what is, including being uncomfortable is always an option. And if we are inspired to change something in ourselves, not because we feel pressured to do so, then the change goes easier. I think fixing is for broken THINGS, not for humans. Bringing in light and joy inside us beats trying to shovel out darkness by improvement efforts. Maria
Thank you Maria! And that is so true and I think you’re right that fixing is for broken THINGS, not for humans. We are exactly how we should be in this moment (though we’ll have our flaws, but who doesn’t?! How boring would it be if we were all perfect? we wouldn’t be human then. We’d be robots! Thanks for sharing your thoughts, as always! I always appreciate hearing from you.
And I always appreciate hearing from you as well. I agree that "we are exactly how we should be in this moment". And I always insist that we are perfect in our imperfections, flaws and all. -- It seems like the evolution of the human consciousness is accelerating, each consecutive generation building upon the experiences of the preceding ones. The present morbid repetition of history not withstanding. I see in you (and in many other younger people) a deeper understanding of many things than I had when I was your age.
I'm literally having to sit with discomfort right now & know intellectually I need to ride it out.. time moves on etc .. so it's something I am experienced in thanks to long recovery & healing times in cancer years 2017-2022 & I remind myself over & over "you've done this before"... as an impatient person & get out there & do stuff I like/want.. I have to "be" kind to myself too. It's a good topic! Thanks for writing about it
First of all, you are not talking nonsense! As you know, I don’t have kids either but kids are still part of my life through friends and extended family. What concerns me the most is the lack of resilience in many young adults I know. They’re marched off to their FP’s at the first signs of anxiety to be put on AD’s. I can understand it if there is an underlying issue (after all we never know what goes on behind closed doors), but on the whole they’re struggling with growing up and the responsibilities that come with that. And I agree with you about the Self Help, let’s constantly improve/level-up/cleanse ourselves of pain etc etc….it’s exhausting and pressuring. Learning to Be is the most important lesson, after all we are Human BEings not Human DOings.
Ok rant over now! 🤣 Thank you for yet another thought provoking essay! 🌻🌻
Thank you Wendy! I do not interact with kids often as most of my friends
dont have kids either! So I didnt know about at thr first sign of something "bad" they're sent to the Dr's to be prescribed stuff rather than learning to deal/cope/be eith whatever! But i can see that from what I've seen of Gen Z.That doesn't bore well for the future, I feel!
And yes, so true that we are human BEings, not DOings!!!
Thanks for your insights! 😊
I fully agree with you, and your wisdom is SO refreshing. What you bring up NEEDS to be said. We can always use ideas like yours to get rid of ideas that we might have that are less than helpful, like "being a problem". You have in your article undermined a few limiting ones. We are so powerful and we are okay, just as we are. I think our worthiness and value are intrinsic (can neither be increased, diminished or removed). When we know that, we can truly live. You also talk about acceptance. Accepting what is, including being uncomfortable is always an option. And if we are inspired to change something in ourselves, not because we feel pressured to do so, then the change goes easier. I think fixing is for broken THINGS, not for humans. Bringing in light and joy inside us beats trying to shovel out darkness by improvement efforts. Maria
Thank you Maria! And that is so true and I think you’re right that fixing is for broken THINGS, not for humans. We are exactly how we should be in this moment (though we’ll have our flaws, but who doesn’t?! How boring would it be if we were all perfect? we wouldn’t be human then. We’d be robots! Thanks for sharing your thoughts, as always! I always appreciate hearing from you.
And I always appreciate hearing from you as well. I agree that "we are exactly how we should be in this moment". And I always insist that we are perfect in our imperfections, flaws and all. -- It seems like the evolution of the human consciousness is accelerating, each consecutive generation building upon the experiences of the preceding ones. The present morbid repetition of history not withstanding. I see in you (and in many other younger people) a deeper understanding of many things than I had when I was your age.
I'm literally having to sit with discomfort right now & know intellectually I need to ride it out.. time moves on etc .. so it's something I am experienced in thanks to long recovery & healing times in cancer years 2017-2022 & I remind myself over & over "you've done this before"... as an impatient person & get out there & do stuff I like/want.. I have to "be" kind to myself too. It's a good topic! Thanks for writing about it
I am also a very impatient person, so also find it difficult to sit and be with what is. But yes, some self-compassion goes a long way I think!