What If You’re Not Lost? You’re Just Wandering Differently

You’ve probably heard the saying (or seen it printed on a shirt or bumper sticker) ‘not all those who wander are lost’.

I’m aiming for this piece to be both reassuring and reframing. It’s for people who feel a bit adrift, unmoored. And that maybe this lost feeling isn’t bad or wrong but just a different way of navigating life. You haven’t wandered off the path, you’re just on one that hasn’t been chartered yet.

We tend to treat feeling lost as a bad thing. It’s the go-to word we think of when life feels all over the place - like it’s not following the A-Z path you thought you were on. When our plans change, or our identities, or when things become a bit overwhelming. We feel like we don’t know what we’re doing and that we’re lost.

But what if we aren’t lost? But instead wandering in a different way, one we hadn’t thought of or expected?

Redefining the Compass

There’s something about feeling disoriented, right? It forces us to take stock and pay attention to what’s happening, and look at things in new ways.

Being “lost” implies that there’s one right direction and you’re not following it.

But who says there’s one right path? We’re all different, all unique. We’re not all sheep following the same well worn path through life from A-B…

So being lost isn’t a bad thing. We should reframe it as exploring - we’re charting our own paths through life.

Not All Paths Are Paved

Let’s blame society shall we? We’re taught to have goals to aim for and reach - to keep moving forward along a straight line. But that’s not realistic, is it? Life isn’t a list to check off or a straightforward stairway from here to whatever goal you have on your bucket list. But the important thing is you’re moving forward - not that you’re moving in a prescribed line or direction. And you’re learning and growing and evolving along the way.

You may not be where you thought you should be by now (again, thank societal expectations of what life is supposed to look like!'). But that doesn’t mean it’s a bad thing. Remember: reframe and remind yourself you’re unique and your path might not follow a pattern that other people will recognize as conventional. And that’s the cool thing: you’re making something unique and beautiful that is all your own.

The Secret Wisdom of Wanderers

There’s a wisdom in wandering and letting your freak flag fly as they say. It’s trusting yourself, your senses, your body. Become aware of what appeals to you and what doesn’t. Those who wander learn special skills. They learn to read signs that others don’t, like listening to their gut. How we did way back when, when we were more in tune with ourselves. And this awareness is important.

So when you think you’re lost in life, maybe take a moment to ask yourself:
Am I lost… or am I in a place no one told me about because I’m doing something unique?
Am I lost… or am I following something that hasn’t taken shape yet?
Am I lost… or am I finally listening to myself more than the noise around me?

Because wandering with intention and self-trust—isn’t the same as being lost.

You Don’t Have to Rush the Route

If you’re in a season of in-between, of shifting identity or uncertain direction, I want you to remind yourself that:

You’re still enough, worthy, and exactly where you should be.

And you don’t have to figure everything out all at once or know what’s at the end of the tunnel before you start. You just need to stay open and curious and full of wonder.

So here’s your soft reminder:
You are not lost, just wandering differently with a special wisdom in the not knowing.

Not every map is complete, and not every path is signposted, but the important thing is moving forward and eventually you might look back and see that what felt like wandering was a path all along. Just one of your own making.

If this letter found you at the right time, feel free to share it with someone else who might need a little wonder today.

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— Caitlin

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